When Experiencing Relationship Conflict
“If it be possible, as much as lieth in you, live peaceably with all men.” Romans 12:18
Trying to deal with problems without taking them to God
“Have I taken my hurt, my concerns and my relationship with this person to God in prayer? Have I asked God for grace and wisdom for how to deal with this relationship? Have I prayed specifically for this person?”
“Do I see myself as ‘better’ than the other person?” “Do I over-focus on how I’ve been wronged and forget I have wronged others?”
“Do I only see the negative things the other person does without seeing any of the positive things?”
Replaying the Hurt
“Do I review and replay the scene of the conflict or when I was hurt over and over again?”
“Do I avoid being around the people I had conflict with? Is this part of the problem?”
“Has my refusal to share information, my feelings or opinions with others led to or fueled this problem?”
“Do I withdraw emotionally from others?”
“Do I talk about the person behind his/her back or spread negativity about the person with my friends, family or coworkers?”
“Have I let anger build up over time and turn to bitterness?”
Adapted from Restoring Broken Relationships: Hope for the Heart by June Hunt, The Soul Care Bible: Thomas Nelson Publishers.
For Further Information:
How to Have That Difficult Conversation You’ve Been Avoiding: With Your Spouse, Adult Child, Boss, Coworker, Best Friend, Parent, or Someone You’re Dating
Authors: Henry Cloud, John Townsend
A practical handbook on positive confrontation, with a discussion guide.
We know that setting healthy boundaries improves relationships and can solve important problems. We have discovered that uncomfortable situations can be avoided or resolved through direct conversation. But most of us don’t know how to have difficult conversations and see confrontation as scary or adversarial.