Kaleb Beyer in Support for Spouses of Sexual Addiction
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It’s Not Your Fault The One You Love Uses Porn

One woman’s story…
“ . . . my husband began using porn as a teenager. What was once an adolescent hobby became the ‘other woman’ in our marriage. At first it was our intimacy that suffered. Then, his pastime grew into an addiction which then started to include more serious forms of ‘adultery.’ He was going to strip bars and sleeping with prostitutes. He was often late, with poor excuses. I noticed our money disappearing and never suspected he was spending nearly $500 a week to feed his addiction.
“ . . . me? I felt responsible, ugly, ashamed, alone and hopeless. Why would he look at another woman unless I wasn’t pretty or sexy enough? Friends rejected my idea that his porn use was ruining our relationship. They told me to be sexier, more sexually responsive and available so that he wouldn’t look elsewhere. I tried all these things only to find they didn’t work. I ended up feeling like a failure, as a wife and a lover. Now I know it wasn’t me.”

This pamphlet addresses how to deal with someone you love who is addicted to pornography. [National Coalition for the Protection of Children and Families]

To view PDF, click here.

 

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Kaleb Beyer
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