Communication In Marriage
Effective communication in marriage is critical to deepening our connection and relationship. Scripture is filled with helpful advice on communication. Consider a couple:
- Proverbs 15:4 “A wholesome tongue is a tree of life: but perverseness therein is a breach in the spirit.”
- Colossians 4:6 “Let your speech be alway with grace, seasoned with salt, that ye may know how ye ought to answer every man.”
Through communication we convey both positive feelings and unpleasant feelings. Regardless what is shared, it is important to remember “how” we communicate is often a higher priority than the “facts” shared. The process of communication often ends up defining the marriage more than the facts and details of the conversations. Softening your tone, behavior, and body language creates a message your spouse can more easily hear. Slowing down your communication leads to a message which is more readily understood by your spouse. These principles lead to an emotionally safe environment; one more enjoyable for your spouse to be near.
Sending and receiving clear messages in marriage requires a recognition of filters that can potentially alter the meaning and / or reception of a message. Identification and acknowledgment of these filters can lead effective communication. Effective and clear communication in love is important for a healthy marriage relationship. Learn more about communication within marriage by reviewing our full document.
For Further Information:
A Lasting Promise: The Christian Guide to Fighting for Your Marriage (2nd Edition)
Authors: Scott Stanley, Daniel Trathen, Savanna McCain, Milton Bryan
This 352-page book teaches practical communication, conflict resolution, and problem solving skills within a Christian framework. The 2nd edition is filled with teaching from scripture, couple exercises at the end of each chapter, as well as the latest research on marriage. This book can be helpful to young couples just starting their relationship and for married couples who are having marital conflict.
Communication: Key to your Marriage
Author: H. Norman Wright
This is a resource for couples to help understand each other at new and deeper levels. Ideal for married and pre-married couples, counselors, lay counselors, mentors, and pastors.